Getting a job isn't a failure // Is having it all a myth?

Lately, I've been navigating what feels like a mid-life career identity crisis. It's an odd liminal space where I'm balancing the realities of being a mum to early teenagers—who need me less—and the ambition to contribute to something larger than myself and build something of my own. Yet, with life and family needs, as well as likely my age and weariness, the energy required to hustle like a decade ago isn't the same.

My friend and fellow digital entrepreneur, Nicky Thompson, echoed a sentiment this week on Instagram that perfectly captured my current state. It's about perspective. She shared insights that challenged the often-glamourised narratives of passion-driven work and the relentless pursuit of ‘fun’ in our professional endeavours. It’s also a very privileged stance to take.

The reality is that work isn't always exhilarating. Some days are great; others are downright challenging. But that's okay. It's a means to an end—supporting the lifestyle and the loved ones we cherish.

Embracing this perspective has led me to a significant decision. This week, I started a new job. It's not my dream career, perhaps, but although early, it's proving to be surprisingly satisfying so far. It offers:

• a sense of belonging,

• an aligned industry to my interests, as well as experience,

• part-time and mostly work-from-home hours that allow time for personal and creative pursuits without the pressure to make an income from them,

• time with my kids,

• a chance to apply my skills in meaningful ways,

• the opportunity to grow and develop with an exciting company if and when I have more bandwidth,

• interaction with a diverse group of colleagues,

• a regular paycheck without the overheads and stress of running a business is an undeniable perk. 

In getting a job, I've found a sweet spot. It aligns with my purpose not because it's my ultimate passion but because it enables me to be the mum I want to be—one who is fun, available, and capable of providing. It's a reminder that you can't have it all (at the same time!), but what you do have can be deeply fulfilling with the right perspective.

Reflecting on this journey, I'm reminded of the profound freedom and relief that comes from recognising that securing a job is not a regression or a mark of failure. Instead, it represents a thoughtful, strategic choice that can enrich our lives in ways we might not have anticipated. It's about finding a delicate balance, warmly embracing change, and making peace with the inevitable ups and downs that characterise our personal and professional existence.

This current stage, both as a parent and as an individual, has somewhat crept up on me. Friends, family, and even my own parents have often remarked on how quickly children grow and forge their own paths, leaving the nest. Only recently has this reality begun to truly manifest for me as I witness the maturing of my kids into teenagers. This new phase of life is as bewildering as it is exhilarating, heralding what feels like a Second Act for me—a woman who momentarily set aside her own aspirations to focus on caregiving.

In making this decision, I’m not only able to contribute to the basic needs of my family, like food and shelter, but I can look forward to an upcoming family cruise, a house upgrade and some other extras for myself and my family.

And who knows, what will be in store from here on in?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic. Have you faced similar crossroads? How have you navigated the complex interplay between professional aspirations and personal realities?

Till next time,

Robyn.